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Welcome to Evangelical Deconstruction Journey
Are you on a journey of faith deconstruction?
Perhaps you are questioning the existence of hell and the afterlife?
Maybe you are pulling apart Biblical interpretation that is too literal and not contextual enough.
Do you see purity culture as harmful?
Are you deconstructing sexual ethics?
If any of these things apply to you, you have come to the right place! Eady Jay began deconstructing her faith 20+ years ago when she reached adulthood. The extreme shame she experienced in childhood because of her imperfections, led to a nervous breakdown at age 19. Simultaneously, Eady Jay came into a deeper understanding of God’s radical grace through lecturers and friends at Tabor Bible College (South Australia). Years later she deconstructed the concept of hell and became an Evangelical-Universalist. But the journey did not stop there.
Eady Jay has spent the last several years deconstructing purity culture and religious sexual trauma. You will find many book reviews on her various social media platforms that have aided her deconstruction and brought about further transformation as she embraces anti-discrimination across all races, genders and sexual orientations.
On this website you will have access to blog posts, ebooks and book reviews to encourage you on your own journey of deconstruction, particularly geared toward Evangelicalism.
Subscribe to your “Evangelical Deconstruction Journey” here for a FREE full-length ebook (50,000+ words) deconstructing Biblical interpretation, and let the journey begin!
From the Blog
Recommended Reading: Abortion
I went to my local library a couple of weeks ago and requested a copy of the book Abortion by Jessica Valenti. I got an interesting response from the librarian. She thought the patrons of the library might be upset or offended if she got that particular book in. That’s how conservative of an area I live in.I had to control my…
A Letter to my Mother on her Birthday
Dear Mum, HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!! When are you hopping on a plane and coming for a visit? The kids miss you and so do I. Wouldn’t it be nice to have a cold Christmas for once? Maybe if you came for Christmas, God would pull one out of his back pocket and provide the Christmas miracle of snow. We would take…
Pondering Grace, Shame and Ethics
I am pondering something… Does shame have any place or validity in our lives? About 20-24 years ago I was clinically depressed, a failed perfectionist, trapped in legalism and self-hatred. I was also very much “overweight” and convinced I was “ugly” and no one would ever love the real me. I experienced deep shame, I didn’t feel I belonged in…
We need Empathy informed Ethics
I’m super curious, what do you believe about “right” and “wrong” on your deconstruction journey? I grew up deeply concerned about reading the Bible every day, not swearing, abstaining from sex, being polite and kind – doing unto others as I would have them do unto me. I thought the amount of hours I spent watching TV was sinful and…
Love has no Enemies
Jesus challenged people to love their enemies. I now interpret this as Jesus telling us to stop seeing others as our enemies. If you’re a Democrat, the Republicans are not your enemies. If you’re a Republican, the Democrats are not your enemies. A lot of us are coming to realize that “love the sinner, hate the sin” DOES NOT WORK….
Love trumps the Bible
Even though I respect the Bible, I believe that love trumps the Bible: As a teenager, there were other Christians in my life pointing out that Jonah is an allegory, there was no person literally swallowed by a big fish and surviving in its belly for three days. A literal “seven day creation” interpretation of Genesis was brought into question….
Deconstructing Fleeces
Has anyone else had to deconstruct fleeces? You know, the sheep’s fleece from the book of Judges? Gideon lays out a sheepskin “fleece” and says to God (I’m paraphrasing), “If it’s wet in the morning but the ground is dry, I’ll do such and such.” And then the opposite, “If it is dry in the morning but the ground is…
Why I am Gender Egalitarian
I have been thinking a lot about sexism recently. I listened to the The New Evangelicals podcast critique on Harrison Butker’s controversial speech in which he specifically addressed women who were about to graduate from college: “I would venture to guess that the majority of you are most excited about your marriage and the children you will bring into this…
This Mother’s Day: How my Mother and Motherhood Impacted my Deconstruction Journey
For many years, the month of May has symbolized mothers, motherhood, birth, and death, at least for me personally. Not only is Mother’s Day in the month of May, but I gave birth to my first living baby in May 2018 and my mother passed away May 5th 2011. Last year I pierced my ears a couple more times so…
Good grief
Today is my husband’s grandmother’s “memorial service.” I don’t know what’s so bad about calling it a funeral. I have been to so many funerals in my 41years of life. My great grandfather when I was 6. A friend whose step/dad committed suicide when I was 10. My 2yr old neighbor who died in a hit and run when I…
God and Science are Not Incompatible
I attended a Pentecostal church for my nephew and niece’s dedication today. I was out of the room for most of the sermon (looking after my kids) but I heard the pastor say something about how scientists think God doesn’t exist because of the Big Bang and evolution. I have a really big problem with people setting God and science…
This Easter
My Mother’s Death Triggered the Bulk of My Deconstruction Journey
My mother’s death triggered the bulk of my deconstruction. It was a long time ago now. 12-13 years. I was attending a Pentecostal church while she was sick and dying. I changed churches to attend a grace-based church just 4 months before she died, and the Pastor (Santo Calarco) and I deconstructed hell together months after she died. As a…
I FEEL LIKE GIVING UP
I have wanted to be a writer since I was nine years old.That’s a long time.Thirty-two years to be exact. I started writing my first novel when I was eleven. That one was never completed. But by the time I was eighteen (2000/2001), I had written two substantial novels. I started looking for publishers, and receiving rejection letters. And I…
Exploring Monogamy
As you deconstruct things like purity culture, have you found yourself questioning whether God actually designed us to be monogamous? “Asking for a friend.” Just kidding, I’m asking for myself, but I am not rejecting monogamy, I am simply questioning. I celebrated my 9th anniversary last month. I have known my husband 11 years and he is the only man…
Does everything happen for a reason?
Do you think that everything happens for a reason? A meaningful reason? Or do you think that some things happen for no particular reason, other than that that is how circumstances played out—a kind of circumstantial reason, but not so much a purposeful reason? Us humans seem to be meaning-making machines. I’ve created meaning out of sexual trauma, out of…
Deconstructing Purity Culture
Deconstructing purity culture, for me, has been about understanding that grace covers our decisions about our bodies and our sexuality. I abstained from partnered sexual activity until age twenty-seven and from penetrative sex until I was thirty-two years old. I longed to get married by age twenty-five, but had never even had a boyfriend by that age. I had been…
Deconstruction Can be Painful
Dear God, This deconstruction business can be so painful! I miss you so much it hurts. It feels like I’m losing my best friend. Or I’ve lost a massive part of myself. There are gigantic holes in my identity that I don’t know how to fill. I feel empty and lost and broken all at once. I’m malfunctioning. Can we…
Deconstructing and Reconstructing Worship
I’ve been thinking a lot about both music in general and worship music specifically. I’m a musician. I sing. I play piano. I have written a lot of songs, chord charts and lyrics and lyric-less compositions for which I have been commended, though very much past-tense. I failed a piano exam way back in 2011 around the time my mother…
Angels and Demons
Do you believe in angels and demons?What do you believe about them?Has that belief evolved? I really want to hear your stories as well because I think this helps me make sense of how and why my own perceptions might be changing. As a child, I think I blew them up to be extra large humans in spiritual bodies kind…
Book Reviews
Abortion by Jessica Valenti
Book Review A critical education in everything you need to know about abortion in the USA post Dobbs. Reading this book I learned that most Americans, regardless of their religious or political affiliations, support the legality of abortion in most situations. The fact that Roe Vs Wade was overturned undermines democracy. I learned that abortion is very safe—arguably safer than…
Star-Spangled Jesus by April Ajoy
Brilliant explanation of Christian Nationalism! As an immigrant living in the USA, I found this book incredibly illuminating. I had ideas about “Christian nationalism” but this really spelled it out. I was impressed with April’s understanding of the “seven mountain mandate” and how intertwined it is with Christian nationalism. That was definitely a revelation for me as more of an…
Reviewing: She Deserves Better
Book by Sheila Wray Gregoire, Rebecca Gregoire Lindenbach & Joanna Sawatsky There is some really valuable and insightful information in this book. The three authors delve into topics like respect, boundaries, dating, bodily functions, sex education, self-esteem, sexual assault and consent. In the chapter “She Deserves to be Respected,” the authors addressed the acronym JOY that stands for “Jesus, Others,…
God, Sex and Rich People by Mattie Jo Cowsert
Mattie Jo has written a delightful memoir about evangelical deconstruction, particularly purity culture. Her vibrant personality comes through on every page, making this an easy, entertaining read. Mattie delves into what she was raised to believe, and how she eventually deconstructed hell, evangelism and mission work. She shares stories of a mission trip she went on to Indonesia and how…
Rebel Rising Book Review
I freaking love Rebel!! I didn’t even realize how much I loved her until I read her memoir and learned more of her life experiences. As an Australian, I love her “Aussie-battler” work ethic. As I leftie, I was super excited to find out she’s left-handed. As a melancholy introvert, I was surprised and encouraged to learn that Rebel didn’t…
Sexual Terrorism by Dr. Brenita Mitchell
This is an incredibly important book for those of us concerned about rape culture, sexual assault and other forms of sexual abuse that come under the umbrella term “Sexual Terrorism.” Dr. Brenita has spent her life researching the prevalence and long term negative consequences of sexual terrorism. She works with people who have suffered under sexual terrorism and she is…
Counting the Cost by Jill Duggar Dillard
My impression is that Jill has done absolute justice to the telling of her story within the Duggar family. I found her parents described as believably loving, good people, who made mistakes (as we all do) and fell for the extreme (cultish) teachings of Bill Gothard.Jill’s evolution is compelling and beautiful. It was obviously painful and she doesn’t avoid or…
The Woman They Wanted by Shannon Harris
Shannon’s memoir expresses a deep sadness that can be felt by the reader. The feeling of being used and abused by a legalistic religious system is poignant and relatable. She painted a stark picture of how she was treated as subordinate to her husband. She was not invited and encouraged to be her full self. While I support her emancipation,…
Wishful Thinking by Donna Freitas
Book Review I thoroughly enjoyed and appreciated Donna Freitas’ recent memoir, Wishful Thinking. Donna was raised Catholic, but has spent the majority of her adult life as an atheist. However, she has teetered on the edge of faith probably her entire life. As a deconstructing Evangelical, I can relate to her struggles with faith. She describes the heritage of faith,…
The Woman in Me by Britney Spears
Book Review Britney’s memoir is absolutely shocking. I haven’t followed Britney’s journey much, despite being born only one year later. Of course I heard her songs: “Oops, I did it again,” “Hit me baby one more time,” and “Toxic.” I’m not familiar with most of her other songs. I grew up in Australia and heard less of the Britney Spears…
Author’s Guides (Box Set) by Rob Eager
Book Review This box set includes: The Author’s Guide to Marketing Books on Amazon, The Author’s Guide to Email marketing, and The Author’s Guide to Write Text that Sells Books. These three books are jam-packed with information to help authors like me market our books. Personally, I have new ideas about how to get reviews and endorsements. I understand content…
Nice Churchy Patriarchy by Liz Cooledge Jenkins
Book Review Liz does an excellent job of identifying numerous ways in which patriarchal societies like the US, still discriminate against women. She contrasts complementarianism and egalitarianism and how even in gender-inclusive spaces, sexism can still rear its head. For example, in college, more of the textbooks used are written by white men, than by women and/or BIPOC. Women are…
God After Deconstruction by Thomas Jay Oord and Tripp Fuller
Book Review This book addresses some of the reasons that Christians deconstruct and offers some new perspectives for people to consider rather than giving up faith in God altogether. For example, people can be hurt by a belief in hell, so they might deconstruct and reject traditional views of hell, while still having faith in God. Queer people experiencing rejection…
Worthy by Jada Pinkett Smith
I found Jada’s memoir to be emotionally and spiritually deep. I did not know much of Jada’s story whatsoever and was surprised time and again as I read. The dangerous environment she grew up in was quite foreign to me, having grown up in Australia. I had no idea her parents were both drug addicts, and she became a drug…
Me and White Supremacy by Layla F. Saad
This is a challenging but very necessary and beneficial read. All of us need to be working toward anti-racism. Education and awareness about the ways in which we fall into racist, white supremacist traps is the first step. This book provides that education and the space to explore one’s own mistakes and ignorance, to identify the propaganda, lies and habits…
God Can’t by Thomas Jay Oord
The premise of this book is that God is not omnipotent because God is love and love does not control, coerce, puppeteer, force, or overpower the subject of its affections. God’s love means and necessitates that God cannot control the world. So when human beings experience pain and suffering, this is not God’s doing, God’s will, God’s desire, and God…
Holy Runaways by Matthias Roberts
I loved this book! I do not have the same journey as Matthias, but his experiences are very relatable and there are truths he shares about deconstruction that benefit many of us “holy runaways” as we reconstruct our faith. I appreciated what Matthias had to say about the parable of the seeds. I’d always thought the seed represented the gospel…
The Universal Christ by Richard Rohr
This book is difficult to summarize, there are so many gems in it! So, I am simply going to share about my own journey and how this book impacted me. The Universal Christ has tentatively (holding loosely and not rigidly) helped me reconstruct my worldview. For the past year, I have been teetering on agnosticism, I have become more and…
Immaculate by Anna McGahan
This was a gripping story about a mother whose four-year-old daughter is dying. Her ex-husband is a pastor who is believing for healing, but the mother is struggling with her faith and is trying to be realistic about her daughter’s treatment and prognosis. There is a lot of tension between the two parents, a lot of suffering and heartache. In…
Lantern Beach Mystery Series
By Christy Barritt I have loved the entire Lantern Beach Mysteries Series. These three books (4-6) tied up all the loose ends. We find out who killed Cassidy’s best friend. We find out who killed Elsa, the original owner of the icecream truck. We are able to the see the relationship between Cassidy and Ty progress and how Cassidy takes…
MUSIC BY EDJ
EDJ composed and recorded this song “Innocent” as a means of processing sexual trauma.
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